10 Do’s & Don’ts of Goal-Setting by Jayne Johnson

DON’TS

1. Don’t let someone force a goal on you that you don’t really want – Follow your heart.
2. Don’t let the past stop you – past goals you failed to reach have nothing to do with NOW.
3. Don’t think some of your goals are not important enough, not big enough – All your goals matter.
4. Don’t be rigid. Yes, set a path, a goal, and go for it. But tunnel-vision can make you miss vital information and feedback.
5. Don’t try to do everything yourself. Be willing to delegate.

DO’S

1. Have a clean conscience. When you feel guilty, you don’t feel that you deserve to get the goals you’re going for.
2. Come from a place of service and helping others get what they want. Serve first and the Universe serves you.
3. Celebrate your wins. Reaching a goal is cause for celebration – and it leads to MORE wins!
4. Support those people who support you – flow power and support to them. It creates a win/win loop of power, and everyone wins.
5. Every day make a list of what you are grateful for – express your gratitude for everything and everyone you can think of!

The 10 Human Regrets From “The Leader Who Had No Title” by Robin Sharma

Human Regret #1.

You reach your last day with the brilliant song that your life was meant to sing still silent within you.



Human Regret #2.

You reach your last day without ever having experienced the natural power that inhabits you to do great work and achieve great things.



Human Regret #3.

You reach your last day realizing that you never inspired anyone else by the example that you set.



Human Regret #4.

You reach your last day full of pain at the realization that you never took any bold risks and so you never received any bright rewards.



Human Regret #5.

You reach your last day understanding that you missed the opportunity to catch a glimpse of mastery because you bought into the lie that you had to be resigned to mediocrity.



Human Regret #6.

You reach your last day and feel heartbroken that you never learned skill of transforming adversity into victory and lead into gold.



Human Regret #7.

You reach your last day regretting that you forgot that work is about being radically helpful to others rather than being helpful only to yourself.



Human Regret #8.

You reach your last day with the awareness that you ended up living the life that society trained you to want versus leading the life you truly wanted to have.



Human Regret #9.

You reach your last day and awaken to the fact that you never realized your absolute best nor touched the special genius that you were built to become.



Human Regret #10.

You reach your last day and discover you could have been a leader and left his world so much better than you found it. But you refused to accept that mission because you were just too scared. And so you failed. And wasted a life.

Are You or Your Boss Debilitating?

Unless you are the CEO, you have a boss. Even CEOs have a board to report to. What kind of boss are you to your direct reports? Would anyone call you DEBILITATING? In learning to be a great leader, it helps to know what bad leaders do so you can avoid those behaviours.

WHAT IS A DEBILITATING BOSS?

A debilitating boss is a boss who makes his or her employees feel ineffective, inadequate, weak, lacking confidence, confused, and generally under-performing. Often unknowingly, these bosses suck the passion, soul, and energy right out of you by being negative, critical, and confusing. Instead of using your creativity and effort for superior performance, you ruminate about the injustices and unfair treatment at the hands of your boss. These stories of grievances, inequity, and negative emotions spread, expand, and lead to a toxic environment. Any commitment, dedication, or loyalty is wiped out by the Debilitating Boss.

Clearly, Debilitating Bosses leave a trail of disheartened, disgruntled, and disengaged workers behind them.

Did I hear you ask, 'how then do I manage a debilitating boss?'

The solution is simple. There is an inoculation that can protect you from the contagion of the Debilitating Boss. You have your emotional intelligence competences to build up, strengthen, and repel their impact on you, such as:

Managing your impulses and inoculating yourself from your boss.

Communication and conflict resolution skills to interact with your boss in an effective way, to attentuate his or her impact on you, and to feel you stood up for yourself.

Confidence to prevent your boss from getting under your skin.

Achievement orientation to find ways to get your goals accomplished in spite of a Debilitating Boss.

Initiative to find yourself another job if you are unable to find your desire and motivation again in this problematic relationship.

IF YOU ARE A DEBILITATING BOSS, LEAD WITH EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE!!!

The key to change... is to let go of fear.

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” ~ Marianne Williamson

Each time we face our fear, we gain strength, courage, and confidence in the doing.

Fear of failure must never be a reason not to try something.

"It takes courage...to endure the sharp pains of self discovery rather than choose to take the dull pain of unconsciousness that would last the rest of our lives."

— Marianne Williamson (A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of "A Course in Miracles")

Life is perverse in the sense that, the more you seek security, the less of it you have. But the more you seek opportunity, the more likely it is that you will achieve the security that you desire. ~ Brian Tracy

Instead of viewing our lives and decisions as a series of open and closed doors, perhaps we should see ourselves walking through a corridor. We might be re-routed at times, but we will never get anywhere if we quit walking and stand still, indecisive about where to go next. We should take advantage of every opportunity that God gives us. This is what Paul means in Ephesians 5:16 when he commands us to "redeem the time" -- i.e., take advantage of every opportunity.

The simple fact of acting like you are confident and competent diminishes the fear. When I was starting as an entrepreneur I was very afraid of failing. I found out that in business, doing business is not dangerous. Being incompetent and not being business savvy is dangerous. So I decided to become competent and so I squashed my fear.

Walk through the corridor and see what opportunities God presents. Develop a vision, plan carefully, prepare comprehensively, wisely discern your opportunities, and pursue the openings that arise.

Have a beautiful week!

I Will Do More by Bud Starwas

When others do me serious wrong,
I will forgive to keep me strong;
When others speak an unkind word,
I will forget what I have heard.

When others fail to do their part,
I will do more with loving heart;
When others fail to give me praise;
I still will go the loving ways.

When some are praised for what I do,
I will do more, and praise them too;
I will do more so I may know
God’s peace and joy where’er I go.

-Bud Starwas

“Between you and every goal that you wish to achieve, there is a series of obstacles, and the bigger the goal, the bigger the obstacles. Your decision to be, have and do something out of the ordinary entails facing difficulties and challenges that are out of the ordinary as well. Sometimes your greatest asset is simply your ability to stay with it longer than anyone else.” -Brian Tracy